My grandmother used say that all the time. My mother clued me in early on that it was a rhetorical question and that she really wouldn't appreciate me answering. Hey don't ask a question you don't want answered, but I digress.
My mother died on February 5th. I have these two guy friends who I have been there for no matter what, whom I have supported through thick and thin, whose sides I stood by through the storm getting wet. And where were they during my hurricane? Your guess is a good as mine.
One who've I've known since grade school, I text him and told him and we talked then I text him and said I need to see him I needed to talk. He promised that when he got home that Thursday he would be by. Thursday came but he didn't. Text him to see where he was and he was on his way to ATL, but said he didn't forget his promise and would be by when he got back. It's March and I still haven't seen him. I text him to call him on his BS and he swears he didn't text me that he was coming home that Thursday or that he was in ATL. Either he's lying or I need to have a talk with his girlfriend (wouldn't be the first time she's text me from his phone). If he wants to be stupid and leave his phone with her, that's him But that's his M.O. he does no wrong. He's always right. And he wonders why I wont tell...
The second I've known since college and I told him on im the night she died. All I got was I'm so sorry and a door closing. No phone call, no letter, no email, no IM. Then when I called him on his BS a couple weeks later, cause I still hadn't heard from him, he starts apologizing for not being there for me. It's too late to apologize. Where were you when I couldn't' see my way out of darkness? Where were you when I really needed to talk to you? I didn't expect you to fly in for everything, but damn couldn't a sista get a phone call?
I feel cheated by her death. She raised care of my oldest nephew and was taking care of my youngest nephew, but she wont be here to see my child grow up. He won't hear her cheering him on as he grows up. I can't call on her for advise on raising him. She's not here to help me mold him. When she died, it was devastating. She wasn't just my mother, she was my bestest friend in the whole wide world, my confidant (we talked about everything, even sex) she was my adviser (even though she did this nerve racking thing of always telling me she can't tell me what to do, it's my life my decision, I'm like i don't want you to tell me what to do i want you to tell me what you would do, but she hardly did). I can't walk in the house and smell her banana pudding cooking. Hell her cornbread dressing recipe died with her. And i constantly wonder what am I going to do. Now I have to responsibility of taking care of everyone. My burden just got heavier. And no one is here to take care of me. Dammit I'm the baby, I shouldn't have to take care of everyone and everything. But alas that's the burden I carry. She carried it and passed it on to me.
I love my best friends, they were there for me. Nitra you are my sister girl, you took care of my baby when i couldn't. Thank you and your family for everything.
Where was Moses when the lights went out? IN THE DARK!!!
My mother died on February 5th. I have these two guy friends who I have been there for no matter what, whom I have supported through thick and thin, whose sides I stood by through the storm getting wet. And where were they during my hurricane? Your guess is a good as mine.
One who've I've known since grade school, I text him and told him and we talked then I text him and said I need to see him I needed to talk. He promised that when he got home that Thursday he would be by. Thursday came but he didn't. Text him to see where he was and he was on his way to ATL, but said he didn't forget his promise and would be by when he got back. It's March and I still haven't seen him. I text him to call him on his BS and he swears he didn't text me that he was coming home that Thursday or that he was in ATL. Either he's lying or I need to have a talk with his girlfriend (wouldn't be the first time she's text me from his phone). If he wants to be stupid and leave his phone with her, that's him But that's his M.O. he does no wrong. He's always right. And he wonders why I wont tell...
The second I've known since college and I told him on im the night she died. All I got was I'm so sorry and a door closing. No phone call, no letter, no email, no IM. Then when I called him on his BS a couple weeks later, cause I still hadn't heard from him, he starts apologizing for not being there for me. It's too late to apologize. Where were you when I couldn't' see my way out of darkness? Where were you when I really needed to talk to you? I didn't expect you to fly in for everything, but damn couldn't a sista get a phone call?
I feel cheated by her death. She raised care of my oldest nephew and was taking care of my youngest nephew, but she wont be here to see my child grow up. He won't hear her cheering him on as he grows up. I can't call on her for advise on raising him. She's not here to help me mold him. When she died, it was devastating. She wasn't just my mother, she was my bestest friend in the whole wide world, my confidant (we talked about everything, even sex) she was my adviser (even though she did this nerve racking thing of always telling me she can't tell me what to do, it's my life my decision, I'm like i don't want you to tell me what to do i want you to tell me what you would do, but she hardly did). I can't walk in the house and smell her banana pudding cooking. Hell her cornbread dressing recipe died with her. And i constantly wonder what am I going to do. Now I have to responsibility of taking care of everyone. My burden just got heavier. And no one is here to take care of me. Dammit I'm the baby, I shouldn't have to take care of everyone and everything. But alas that's the burden I carry. She carried it and passed it on to me.
I love my best friends, they were there for me. Nitra you are my sister girl, you took care of my baby when i couldn't. Thank you and your family for everything.
Where was Moses when the lights went out? IN THE DARK!!!